How do I stop overthinking in a relationship?
Notice the thought, test it against facts and communicate instead of assuming.
Overthinking in relationships often comes from anxiety, past experiences or lack of clarity. You can reduce it by checking your thoughts against facts and talking directly with your partner.
Your mind tends to fill silence with worst-case stories.
Catch the loop
Notice when you are spiralling. Ask: what do I actually know, and what am I assuming?
Ask instead of guessing
Share your feeling plainly: "I felt a bit worried when you did not reply. Can we talk about it?" This gives your partner a chance to reassure you.
Calm your mind
Move, breathe slowly or distract yourself with a task. If it feels constant, consider speaking with a therapist.
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