How do I know if they are the one?
Look for shared values, respect, trust and how you handle difficulty together.
There is no perfect formula, but the right long-term partner usually shares your core values, treats you with respect and works with you through hard times. Feelings matter, but so do compatibility and character.
Time and honest conversation reveal more than early chemistry.
Key things to check
Do you want similar things about family, money, lifestyle and where to live? Do you trust each other? Can you resolve conflict well?
How you feel
You feel secure and like yourself, and you enjoy ordinary time together, not just exciting moments.
Do not rush
Spend time seeing how they act when stressed. Talk openly about the future before making big commitments.
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