How do I get over a breakup?
Give yourself time to grieve, cut contact triggers and rebuild routines and support.
Getting over a breakup takes time, and there is no fixed schedule. What helps most is letting yourself grieve, reducing reminders of your ex and rebuilding a life that feels like yours again.
Expect good days and bad days. Setbacks are normal and do not mean you are failing to heal.
Practical steps
Mute or unfollow your ex for a while, put away reminders, keep regular sleep, food and exercise, and lean on friends and family instead of isolating.
Avoid the traps
Constant checking of their social media, late-night texts and rushing into a rebound tend to prolong the pain.
Rebuild
Pick up an old hobby, set a small goal and spend time with people who make you feel good. If sadness stays heavy for weeks and affects daily life, consider speaking with a counsellor or doctor.
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